- *looking at my legs*: Oh my god why
- *looking at my stomach*: Oh my god why
- *looking at my arms*: Oh my god why
- *looking at my face*: Oh my god why
- *trying to exercise*: Oh my god why
- *eating shitty food*: Oh my god why
- *weighing myself*: Oh my god why
- *looking at my life*: Oh my god why
- *looking at my music taste*: cool man
someone somewhere is meeting the love of their life right now and that’s pretty cool
saying “that’s how things are” is incredibly useless when talking about social issues because yes, we are aware that that’s how things are, and we don’t like it, that’s the whole point
congratulations on providing no useful input to the conversation
for my entire life i wondered why a dragonfly has an ass thats like 8 times as long as their body and tonight i finally felt compelled to investigate and as it turns out dragonflies breath thru their ass and can shoot water out of their butt hole to make them fly faster…….so…… i really did not expect that to be the answer but there it is
best thing i learned working with and learning about kids: when they do shit like this, especially to something they themselves use and enjoy, leave it there for as long as possible. let them return to the fun thing over and over again so that it sinks in that the thing they did was wrong, they ruined something, and now they can’t have fun because of it and they should never do it again. it teaches them consequence of action and cautiousness.
i did this with a 3-year-old kid i babysat who filled his playstation with peanut butter before i got there, just every time he went back to it and asked why it’s not working, i opened it and pointed to the peanut butter stains and said “you did that” and he says “yeah”, “will it work like that?” “…no”, and when he got it and promised to never put anything but games into a game machine again, his parents bought another and he kept his promise. it works, even at that age.
this was a long and unnecessary rant but so many times i’ve seen parents IMMEDIATELY replace their kids’ toys/electronics that they destroy over and over again and i’m just like NO THEY’RE NOT LEARNING ANYTHING THAT WAY
they also don’t learn from being thrown into fires
yeah but they’re quieter that way
i remember reblogging and commenting on this post already before but as a daycare teacher, im still quite annoyed.
i get that there are people who are bad with handling kids but please please PLEASE erase the idea of shutting down children. if you silence them without ever asking for their side of the story nor acknowledging their emotions and opinions, youre just asking for the worst. if you silence them, they would learn that no one is going to listen to them. they would grow up as adults, thinking that their words and actions does not matter - that they either have to be submissive to those in power by shutting down their own ideas to favour those in higher ranking or be louder and be the ones who dismiss others from having free will.
next time you interact with a child, remind yourself to listen to their words - if you cant, at least try. if they are doing something problematic, fucking tell it to them directly AND EXPLAIN WHY and as a bonus, ask them why they did it first. remember the last time someone told you “no, you cant do that because i say so” to your face. you were probably either that you want to punch this person in the face or feel hopeless. well, for children its mostly the latter. and this mostly works for older children who are familiar with complex ideas or problem solving. if you just try, even a two year old can understand. for babies, you just have to accept the fact that BABIES CRY. thats what they do. and when they cry, its literally either they are hungry, tired or uncomfortable. so instead of shushing them or yelling at your less than a year old child to “OHMYGOD WILL YOU SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!” (which, i quote, ive personally witnessed at one of the daycares ive been), feed them if theyre hungry, put them to nap if theyre tired, change their fucking diaper if they pooed cz that shits nasty. and if all else fail, distraction is the key. give them a toy to play with, sing to them, be silly with them to make them laugh - heck, even cuddles work.
seriously, our generation is already filled with oppressed, depressed and anxious youths and young adults who constantly feel the need to prove themselves to everybody - saying “yeah but they’re quieter that way”, is like youre asking for another generation of socially fucked up individuals.
we havent learned anything at all…and gee i wonder why.